When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I wa...nt a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release.
The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now. The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.
When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again. In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage. This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.
On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out.
To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad.
On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.
At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart. That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I ran up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was too busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from whatever negative reaction it would have on our son, in case we pushed through with the divorce.
—At least, in the eyes of our son—-I’m a loving husband….
THE SMALL DETAILS OF YOUR LIVES ARE WHAT REALLY MATTER IN A RELATIONSHIP. "IT'S NOT" the Mansion or House, the Car, Property, the Money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you. If you do, you just might save a marriage. Most of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up...
YOU DON'T REALIZE WHAT YOU HAVE UNTIL IT’S GONE!!
Sunday, January 15, 2012
Saturday, January 14, 2012
Things That Lower Your Sperm Count
Age
Smoking/Drinking - The party's over for your partner once you start trying for a baby, but what about you? Same goes for men, says Cole. Sperm is just as affected by tobacco, alcohol, and drugs as a woman's eggs. Research suggests that this troublesome trio may lower sperm counts and slow motility. That means you should completely cut out recreational drugs, such as marijuana and cocaine, cut down on alcohol, and quit smoking before you start trying. Plus, kicking the habit now can help your family later. Secondhand smoke is dangerous for your partner and your children, both in utero and after birth. Even the use of chewing tobacco has been linked to poor sperm function.
A lowered sperm count isn't the only reason you should lay off the bottle. Research shows that dads who drink the equivalent of two drinks a day during the month before conception have babies who weigh on average 6.5 ounces less than other babies. Low birth weight is a serious medical condition that can affect your child's health and behavior for the rest of his life.
Obesity - Some studies, but not all, have found an association between obesity in men and low sperm count.
Emotional Stress. Stress may interfere with the hormone GnRH and
reduce sperm counts.
Sexual Issues. In less than 1% of males with infertility problems, a problem with sexual intercourse or technique will affect fertility.
Impotence, premature ejaculation, or psychologic or relationship problems can contribute to infertility, although these conditions are usually very treatable.
Lubricants used with condoms, including spermicides, oils, and
Vaseline, can affect fertility. If you need a sperm friendly lubricant, the choice of many couples trying to get pregnant is Pre-Seed.
Testicular Exposure to Overheating.
Substance Abuse
Malnutrition and Nutrient Deficiencies.
Bicycling - Bicycling has been linked to impotence in men and also may affect the sperm count. Pressure from the bike seat may damage blood vessels and nerves that are responsible for erections. Mountain biking, which involves riding on off-road terrain, exposes the perineum (the region between the scrotum and the anus) to more extreme shocks and vibrations and increases the risk for injuries to the scrotum.
Genetic Factors
Environmental Assaults
Exposure to Heavy Metals - Chronic exposure to heavy metals such as lead, cadmium, or arsenic may affect sperm production and most often cause a reduced production in otherwise healthy males. Trace amounts of these metals in semen seem to inhibit the function of enzymes contained in the acrosome, the membrane that covers the head of the sperm.
Radiation Treatment.
Varicocele - Varicoceles are dilated veins in the scrotum (just as an individual may have varicose veins in their legs). These veins are dilated because the blood does not drain properly from them. These dilated veins allow extra blood to pool in the scrotum, which has a negative effect on the sperm production. This condition is the most common reversible cause of male factor infertility and may be corrected by minor outpatient surgery.
Most experts do this microscopically to preserve the arterial supply and lymphatics. A sub-inguinal incision (about 1 inch above the penis and 1 inch from the midline) is usually used, as this avoids incising the abdominal muscles and creates less post-operative pain.
Things that can help!
1. Morning sex = higher sperm count: If you are trying to conceive, time intercourse when his sperm count is at its highest. Researchers have found that men generally have a higher sperm count in the mornings. Men’s sexual interest may be higher in the mornings as well.
2. His weight matters: Women are not the only ones who have weight related fertility issues. Men who are overweight or underweight are more likely to have problems with infertility. Having too much or too little body fat may affect a man’s hormone levels. Scientists in one Finnish study found that a 20 lb weight gain may increase a man’s chance of being infertile by 10 percent.
3. Have more sex not less: Men with low sperm counts are often advised to abstain from sex in order to improve their sperm count, but new research suggests that while this may improve sperm count, too much abstinence can damage the DNA of the sperm that is produced. Australian researchers have found that having daily sex actually improves the quality, if not the quantity of sperm. The thought behind this is that regular ejaculations get rid of the old sperm and make way for newer healthier sperm.
4. Folic acid is not only good for the goose, but it is also good for the gander. Most women know that taking a folic acid supplement is important during childbearing years because it can prevent certain birth defects. You may not have known that it is also important for men to eat a diet containing folic acid. A recent study by researchers at the University of California, Berkley found that men who had lower levels of folic acid (or folate) in their diets had a higher rate of chromosomal abnormalities in their sperm.
5. Avoid soy products. A recent study published by Oxford University Press’s online publication Human Reproduction, suggests that eating a diet high in soy foods could cause men to have a lower sperm count. According to the study, men who ate soy foods were more likely to have lower sperm counts (although not necessarily abnormally low) than men who did not eat soy.
6. Skip the lubricants. Lubricants can impede the movement of sperm. A woman’s cervical mucous is designed to help transport sperm, but many commercial lubricants have the opposite effect. Lubricants like KY Jelly, baby oil, or petroleum jelly have been shown to slow down or damage sperm. Saliva can also damage sperm. One lubricant that is okay to use is Pre-seed. According to one study in the ASRM’s journal of Fertility and Sterility, Pre-seed was not shown to harm or slow down sperm.
7. Watch out for cell phones and lap tops. There have been a few studies that have shown that excessive use of lap tops or cell phones can cause sperm damage. Lap tops, if placed on a man’s lap, get hot over time. The increase in scrotal temperature may have a negative effect on a man’s sperm if he keeps a lap top sitting on his lap for extended periods of time. Similarly, cell phone emissions might also cause sperm damage. Keeping a cell phone in a close proximity to a man’s scrotum could potentially cause a decrease in sperm quality, according to a small research study from the Cleveland Clinic.
8. Buy some boxers - The jury is still out on the boxers vs. briefs debate. Some say the testes can get overheated in briefs, inhibiting sperm production. Others say it's really not an issue unless sperm count is already a concern. Cole points out that if wearing boxers can potentially give you an edge over briefs, why not go with boxers for a few months? It's a fairly simple wardrobe adjustment that could speed things along.
9. Steer clear of the hot tub/hot showers - Don't look to hot tubs, saunas, or hot baths as a way to unwind before all this baby business gets under way. Heat kills sperm. And because they take up to three months to regenerate, if you spend a long time in the hot tub in January, it could be April before you have a full set of swimmers again. Testicles function best when they keep their cool: "The boys" are happiest at 94 to 96 degrees, a couple of degrees cooler than normal body temperature. To protect your swimmers, avoid hot tubs and saunas for up to three months before trying to conceive.
Smoking/Drinking - The party's over for your partner once you start trying for a baby, but what about you? Same goes for men, says Cole. Sperm is just as affected by tobacco, alcohol, and drugs as a woman's eggs. Research suggests that this troublesome trio may lower sperm counts and slow motility. That means you should completely cut out recreational drugs, such as marijuana and cocaine, cut down on alcohol, and quit smoking before you start trying. Plus, kicking the habit now can help your family later. Secondhand smoke is dangerous for your partner and your children, both in utero and after birth. Even the use of chewing tobacco has been linked to poor sperm function.
A lowered sperm count isn't the only reason you should lay off the bottle. Research shows that dads who drink the equivalent of two drinks a day during the month before conception have babies who weigh on average 6.5 ounces less than other babies. Low birth weight is a serious medical condition that can affect your child's health and behavior for the rest of his life.
Obesity - Some studies, but not all, have found an association between obesity in men and low sperm count.
Emotional Stress. Stress may interfere with the hormone GnRH and
reduce sperm counts.
Sexual Issues. In less than 1% of males with infertility problems, a problem with sexual intercourse or technique will affect fertility.
Impotence, premature ejaculation, or psychologic or relationship problems can contribute to infertility, although these conditions are usually very treatable.
Lubricants used with condoms, including spermicides, oils, and
Vaseline, can affect fertility. If you need a sperm friendly lubricant, the choice of many couples trying to get pregnant is Pre-Seed.
Testicular Exposure to Overheating.
Substance Abuse
Malnutrition and Nutrient Deficiencies.
Bicycling - Bicycling has been linked to impotence in men and also may affect the sperm count. Pressure from the bike seat may damage blood vessels and nerves that are responsible for erections. Mountain biking, which involves riding on off-road terrain, exposes the perineum (the region between the scrotum and the anus) to more extreme shocks and vibrations and increases the risk for injuries to the scrotum.
Genetic Factors
Environmental Assaults
Exposure to Heavy Metals - Chronic exposure to heavy metals such as lead, cadmium, or arsenic may affect sperm production and most often cause a reduced production in otherwise healthy males. Trace amounts of these metals in semen seem to inhibit the function of enzymes contained in the acrosome, the membrane that covers the head of the sperm.
Radiation Treatment.
Varicocele - Varicoceles are dilated veins in the scrotum (just as an individual may have varicose veins in their legs). These veins are dilated because the blood does not drain properly from them. These dilated veins allow extra blood to pool in the scrotum, which has a negative effect on the sperm production. This condition is the most common reversible cause of male factor infertility and may be corrected by minor outpatient surgery.
Most experts do this microscopically to preserve the arterial supply and lymphatics. A sub-inguinal incision (about 1 inch above the penis and 1 inch from the midline) is usually used, as this avoids incising the abdominal muscles and creates less post-operative pain.
Things that can help!
1. Morning sex = higher sperm count: If you are trying to conceive, time intercourse when his sperm count is at its highest. Researchers have found that men generally have a higher sperm count in the mornings. Men’s sexual interest may be higher in the mornings as well.
2. His weight matters: Women are not the only ones who have weight related fertility issues. Men who are overweight or underweight are more likely to have problems with infertility. Having too much or too little body fat may affect a man’s hormone levels. Scientists in one Finnish study found that a 20 lb weight gain may increase a man’s chance of being infertile by 10 percent.
3. Have more sex not less: Men with low sperm counts are often advised to abstain from sex in order to improve their sperm count, but new research suggests that while this may improve sperm count, too much abstinence can damage the DNA of the sperm that is produced. Australian researchers have found that having daily sex actually improves the quality, if not the quantity of sperm. The thought behind this is that regular ejaculations get rid of the old sperm and make way for newer healthier sperm.
4. Folic acid is not only good for the goose, but it is also good for the gander. Most women know that taking a folic acid supplement is important during childbearing years because it can prevent certain birth defects. You may not have known that it is also important for men to eat a diet containing folic acid. A recent study by researchers at the University of California, Berkley found that men who had lower levels of folic acid (or folate) in their diets had a higher rate of chromosomal abnormalities in their sperm.
5. Avoid soy products. A recent study published by Oxford University Press’s online publication Human Reproduction, suggests that eating a diet high in soy foods could cause men to have a lower sperm count. According to the study, men who ate soy foods were more likely to have lower sperm counts (although not necessarily abnormally low) than men who did not eat soy.
6. Skip the lubricants. Lubricants can impede the movement of sperm. A woman’s cervical mucous is designed to help transport sperm, but many commercial lubricants have the opposite effect. Lubricants like KY Jelly, baby oil, or petroleum jelly have been shown to slow down or damage sperm. Saliva can also damage sperm. One lubricant that is okay to use is Pre-seed. According to one study in the ASRM’s journal of Fertility and Sterility, Pre-seed was not shown to harm or slow down sperm.
7. Watch out for cell phones and lap tops. There have been a few studies that have shown that excessive use of lap tops or cell phones can cause sperm damage. Lap tops, if placed on a man’s lap, get hot over time. The increase in scrotal temperature may have a negative effect on a man’s sperm if he keeps a lap top sitting on his lap for extended periods of time. Similarly, cell phone emissions might also cause sperm damage. Keeping a cell phone in a close proximity to a man’s scrotum could potentially cause a decrease in sperm quality, according to a small research study from the Cleveland Clinic.
8. Buy some boxers - The jury is still out on the boxers vs. briefs debate. Some say the testes can get overheated in briefs, inhibiting sperm production. Others say it's really not an issue unless sperm count is already a concern. Cole points out that if wearing boxers can potentially give you an edge over briefs, why not go with boxers for a few months? It's a fairly simple wardrobe adjustment that could speed things along.
9. Steer clear of the hot tub/hot showers - Don't look to hot tubs, saunas, or hot baths as a way to unwind before all this baby business gets under way. Heat kills sperm. And because they take up to three months to regenerate, if you spend a long time in the hot tub in January, it could be April before you have a full set of swimmers again. Testicles function best when they keep their cool: "The boys" are happiest at 94 to 96 degrees, a couple of degrees cooler than normal body temperature. To protect your swimmers, avoid hot tubs and saunas for up to three months before trying to conceive.
Thursday, January 12, 2012
New Year Updates!
Well wanted to wish everyone and Happy New Years & Hope all is well with everyone, just a few updates of whats going on around this crazy part!
This year I will be on Blogger for 8yrs? wow! Time does go by =)
Hubby & I are getting rdy to celebrate our 7yr wedding anniversary next month for those of ya that are "waiting the curtain to fall" or thought "they are a lost cause" ya keep thinking that your loss really, reason we never keep in touch and your alone without friends um yep yep thats what happens when you talk shit about friends your not a true friend or family member and need to get over yourself
Anyhoo ;)
Life couldn't be better, sure I mentioned we had new neighbors buy the other half of our house, they are really nice and we love hanging out with them, Monday we are suppose to go over and relax by the fireplace with some wine or something really haven't set in stone what will be on the menu but we shall soon =)
Abby (lady next door) and I been doing zumba every chance we get, its pretty fun and I can't believe how much she can jump around being almost 5 months preggers =) She rocks it! Im so proud of her =)
I started some new art work for her kids room, her daughter will be 2 very soon and shes doing pooh in her kids room and she is a artist as well which i find exciting that we are into the samethings, the guys just work a lot but we manage, shes a housewife like me so it works out =)
We all just have much to be thankful for
I also got ninja blenders for Christmas which I been having fun experimenting with and back on track with losing weight, 55lbs is the goal this year to have a total loss of 170lbs, I gained 195lbs when I quit smoking 12yrs ago to this very month!
Hubby is coming up on his 3yr smoke free, im so proud of him, we made a pack that he quits i lose weight and we been rockin it, now if this year we can have a baby things will be more rockin!
I have my apt this week so we shall see how things go.
I am just overall happy & excited and things are pretty well going, we are thankful & blessed for a lot of things, we just thank god for providing us and blessing us with what we have and what he plans for the future =)
This year I will be on Blogger for 8yrs? wow! Time does go by =)
Hubby & I are getting rdy to celebrate our 7yr wedding anniversary next month for those of ya that are "waiting the curtain to fall" or thought "they are a lost cause" ya keep thinking that your loss really, reason we never keep in touch and your alone without friends um yep yep thats what happens when you talk shit about friends your not a true friend or family member and need to get over yourself
Anyhoo ;)
Life couldn't be better, sure I mentioned we had new neighbors buy the other half of our house, they are really nice and we love hanging out with them, Monday we are suppose to go over and relax by the fireplace with some wine or something really haven't set in stone what will be on the menu but we shall soon =)
Abby (lady next door) and I been doing zumba every chance we get, its pretty fun and I can't believe how much she can jump around being almost 5 months preggers =) She rocks it! Im so proud of her =)
I started some new art work for her kids room, her daughter will be 2 very soon and shes doing pooh in her kids room and she is a artist as well which i find exciting that we are into the samethings, the guys just work a lot but we manage, shes a housewife like me so it works out =)
We all just have much to be thankful for
I also got ninja blenders for Christmas which I been having fun experimenting with and back on track with losing weight, 55lbs is the goal this year to have a total loss of 170lbs, I gained 195lbs when I quit smoking 12yrs ago to this very month!
Hubby is coming up on his 3yr smoke free, im so proud of him, we made a pack that he quits i lose weight and we been rockin it, now if this year we can have a baby things will be more rockin!
I have my apt this week so we shall see how things go.
I am just overall happy & excited and things are pretty well going, we are thankful & blessed for a lot of things, we just thank god for providing us and blessing us with what we have and what he plans for the future =)
Sunday, January 08, 2012
Thursday, January 05, 2012
Wednesday, January 04, 2012
Saturday, December 31, 2011
A Year we shall never forget.....
A Year we shall never forget, losing Elisabeth Sladen and Nicholas Courtney. Remembered always! Our Sarah Jane Smith and the Brig.
NUFF SAID!
Goodbye 2011, so many great new friends, so many great times with hubby, family & friends, so many things we wanted/needed and got what we could, the ups and downs the year gave us but we managed to make it though, and we thank god for letting us live another wonderful year with our loved ones & we look forward to next year and many more years after that <3 :)
Thursday, December 29, 2011
♥ I am so thankful & Blessed ♥
I am so thankful & Blessed for my awesome hubby & our family as well as our awesome friends & his job with wonderful people & our benefits if it wasn't for all of these ppl & things life would be so dull & boring I wanna say THANK YOU to everyone and GOD for making everything possible in our lives =) We are so looking forward to 2012 & so many more years, thank you =) ♥
Thursday, December 22, 2011
Wednesday, December 21, 2011
If a Man Wants You
By: Salma Rumman
This advice was passed along to me from a counselor; it was great to hear so I wanted to share it.
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve
then heck no, you can’t "be friends."
A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.
Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don’t stay because you think "it will get better." You’ll be mad at yourself
a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.
Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has
more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else’s man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you.
All men are not dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...There is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to complete you. A relationship consists
of two whole individuals. Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.
Dating is fun; even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know where you are, and you’re
always readily available to him—he takes it for granted.
Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other ladies.
You’ll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate
them, a day to love them, and an entire lifetime to forget them.
Via http://www.divinecaroline.com/22065/35337-wants/2#ixzz1h9VWF7k8
This advice was passed along to me from a counselor; it was great to hear so I wanted to share it.
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve
then heck no, you can’t "be friends."
A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.
Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don’t stay because you think "it will get better." You’ll be mad at yourself
a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.
Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has
more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else’s man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you.
All men are not dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...There is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to complete you. A relationship consists
of two whole individuals. Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.
Dating is fun; even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know where you are, and you’re
always readily available to him—he takes it for granted.
Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other ladies.
You’ll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate
them, a day to love them, and an entire lifetime to forget them.
Via http://www.divinecaroline.com/22065/35337-wants/2#ixzz1h9VWF7k8
Tuesday, December 20, 2011
Thoughts!
A friend of mine posted on facebook this morning about how his life has been so far and his thoughts, and you know it inspired me to write my own, so here it is:
Personally my childhood was awesome when i lived with my grandparents I moved around so much after I left living with them, the crap I was moved though all those years made me strong and made me the person I am today along with my grandparents love & guidance and now life is great, I have a wonderful hubby who loves me and makes me his world as I do for him and I have my grandparents to thank for helping me become who I am & now they they passed my hubby & his family that keeps me going, as well as the thought of expanding our family & so much more, I mean we have our moments what couple doesn't, All I know my grandparents who I am proud to call my mom & dad are looking down on me proudly and this makes me even more happy ! =)
Our 7yr anniversary is coming up this new year with many more to follow & I have to say I am happy & excited all at the same time!
Personally my childhood was awesome when i lived with my grandparents I moved around so much after I left living with them, the crap I was moved though all those years made me strong and made me the person I am today along with my grandparents love & guidance and now life is great, I have a wonderful hubby who loves me and makes me his world as I do for him and I have my grandparents to thank for helping me become who I am & now they they passed my hubby & his family that keeps me going, as well as the thought of expanding our family & so much more, I mean we have our moments what couple doesn't, All I know my grandparents who I am proud to call my mom & dad are looking down on me proudly and this makes me even more happy ! =)
Our 7yr anniversary is coming up this new year with many more to follow & I have to say I am happy & excited all at the same time!
Saturday, December 17, 2011
Holiday Updates, Part 1 !
Well this week been crazy first half (mon/tues/wed) hubby worked then was off yesterday and day before, we where pretty busy getting thing ready for the holidays & relaxing since I been sick with a cold/flu ~ Tho I did get my new lappytop! ~ Hubby had some PTO to use & they where letting them buy learning devices with it, which is nice, so I am very thankful & feel so blessed =) So now I can kick back on the couch and play WoW or write my cookbook or something instead of sitting at my desk which is nice with weeks like this when I am sick & hubby can read his comics on his lappy instead of sitting at his computer! =)
Well yesterday my brother in law Eric married his gf who is now his wife Emily! We went to lunch and had a grand old time, so big congratz to them! Hubby & I got the sign as the witness' so that's always fun too!
Other then that we had some new neighbors that moved in next door that is now getting to be good friends, they moved here from California! The wife is into all the samethings I am, painting, walking etc etc which is awesome! ~ We went for a walk tonight with her daughter since both our hubbys work and we both stay home we will be spending a lot of time together and the guys get along awesomely great also with things in common! ~ so thats another plus plus! ~ We will be having them over for dinner Monday night when hubby starts his 4 day off stretch! I am totally excited!
I have been so thankful & blessed for lots of things this year and I know hubby has too, now if we can just get pregnant that would be totally awesome exp since my new friend next door is in her beginning 2nd trimester for her pregnancy =)
Guess time will tell! =)
I hope everyones ready for the holidays!
Well yesterday my brother in law Eric married his gf who is now his wife Emily! We went to lunch and had a grand old time, so big congratz to them! Hubby & I got the sign as the witness' so that's always fun too!
Other then that we had some new neighbors that moved in next door that is now getting to be good friends, they moved here from California! The wife is into all the samethings I am, painting, walking etc etc which is awesome! ~ We went for a walk tonight with her daughter since both our hubbys work and we both stay home we will be spending a lot of time together and the guys get along awesomely great also with things in common! ~ so thats another plus plus! ~ We will be having them over for dinner Monday night when hubby starts his 4 day off stretch! I am totally excited!
I have been so thankful & blessed for lots of things this year and I know hubby has too, now if we can just get pregnant that would be totally awesome exp since my new friend next door is in her beginning 2nd trimester for her pregnancy =)
Guess time will tell! =)
I hope everyones ready for the holidays!
Monday, December 12, 2011
My 30th Birthday Weekend!
Well hubby had to work on the 7th which was my birthday which was fine cause I knew we would be celebrating on this weekend =)
Friday started with Hubby & I's night to celebrate he made me a Steak dinner with Cauliflower & Cheese & mashed taters with cheesecake for dessert & some of my fav Canadian beer one for me one for him, was totally awesome, we finished up the evening with a buncha movies!
Saturday my father in law came by & brought me what his wife & him got me a cozy scarf, glove & hat set for the winter =) We visited for a little bit then after he left we went to Mama Robin's to bring by there Christmas gifts since hubby works on Christmas weekend then came home & relaxed with movies for the rest of the night & reading comics =)
Sunday ~ I Woke up & went to get my hair cut with Eric & his soon to be wifey Emily (Emily was the one getting her hair done with me lol) & had lunch @ Subway!
Then got home & got ready to head to my sister Maaleka's house, we got there we had pizza, drinks & cake but most of all more awesome company with family :) ♥ We chatted & ate & watched a movie it was awesome fun!
It was a awesome birthday weekend that started on Friday thanks so much ♥ I am so blessed & thankful to have so many wonderful family/friends in my life ♥ :)
Now we been running on maybe 2hrs sleep lol, we took a nap when we got home woke up hubbys back passed out on the couch, think Ill be kicking back in my chair and dozing off too still tired lol
Friday started with Hubby & I's night to celebrate he made me a Steak dinner with Cauliflower & Cheese & mashed taters with cheesecake for dessert & some of my fav Canadian beer one for me one for him, was totally awesome, we finished up the evening with a buncha movies!
Saturday my father in law came by & brought me what his wife & him got me a cozy scarf, glove & hat set for the winter =) We visited for a little bit then after he left we went to Mama Robin's to bring by there Christmas gifts since hubby works on Christmas weekend then came home & relaxed with movies for the rest of the night & reading comics =)
Sunday ~ I Woke up & went to get my hair cut with Eric & his soon to be wifey Emily (Emily was the one getting her hair done with me lol) & had lunch @ Subway!
Then got home & got ready to head to my sister Maaleka's house, we got there we had pizza, drinks & cake but most of all more awesome company with family :) ♥ We chatted & ate & watched a movie it was awesome fun!
It was a awesome birthday weekend that started on Friday thanks so much ♥ I am so blessed & thankful to have so many wonderful family/friends in my life ♥ :)
Now we been running on maybe 2hrs sleep lol, we took a nap when we got home woke up hubbys back passed out on the couch, think Ill be kicking back in my chair and dozing off too still tired lol
Tuesday, December 06, 2011
Thursday, December 01, 2011
Passion is Gone!
Arg the passion is gone for my art
Painting
Drawing
Coloring
Done, gone, dusted, wasted....
*sigh*
My workouts....
I just wanna get back on track, want someone to walk/workout with something, but not feeling it.... if I had a buddy I would, wish hubby would join me, maybe him losing a little would help us & our activity/energy level to get outta the house and do stuff on his day off and go for walks or something
Another thing that's getting me down as of late, im happy for my friends don't get me wrong but almost another dozen of my friends have popped up preggers, which been trying almost a year now and I am getting so frustrated, I do love my life the way it is being able to hang out with hubby do what we do together and with our friends, I know stress isn't good when it comes to trying but sometimes I can't help it, I been waiting SO LONG for this moment and it seems like its taking FOREVER
I hoping this is just a phase for everything =/
On another note just got done getting Hubby's Christmas gifts, hope he likes them
One of my artz I made for hubby & I's comic book shop, he loves it & is gonna hang it in the store =)
Painting
Drawing
Coloring
Done, gone, dusted, wasted....
*sigh*
My workouts....
I just wanna get back on track, want someone to walk/workout with something, but not feeling it.... if I had a buddy I would, wish hubby would join me, maybe him losing a little would help us & our activity/energy level to get outta the house and do stuff on his day off and go for walks or something
Another thing that's getting me down as of late, im happy for my friends don't get me wrong but almost another dozen of my friends have popped up preggers, which been trying almost a year now and I am getting so frustrated, I do love my life the way it is being able to hang out with hubby do what we do together and with our friends, I know stress isn't good when it comes to trying but sometimes I can't help it, I been waiting SO LONG for this moment and it seems like its taking FOREVER
I hoping this is just a phase for everything =/
On another note just got done getting Hubby's Christmas gifts, hope he likes them
One of my artz I made for hubby & I's comic book shop, he loves it & is gonna hang it in the store =)
Saturday, November 26, 2011
Blessed & Thankful
It's been awhile since I did any updates, so I thought I get one going! As well as what I am thankful for!
It's been just over a year since we been in our new house, we are both loving it very much, things between hubby & I also been wonderful. One thing we are both thankful for well 2!
In January of this year we where told we can start a family I lost over 100lbs & been going good and so has hubby, no luck yet but we are hoping very soon ! =)
Other then that we been having a ton of fun spending time together going to comic book shops, working on things around the house, watching a lot of movies, now that he went from 10 to 12hr days hes home a lot more which means more time together & more time with our close friends! Which is other things we are thankful for!
Couple weeks ago I had 2 ER visits first was for mother nature coming late by a week then having some issues thankfully it wasn't a miscarriage but my doc said could be my body just skipped a cycle that month and forced itself to have one which caused a lot of pain, but they ran biopsy's to be sure and they came back OK, the second one was for a double ear infection that was causing so much pain it was making the side of my face go numb. But thank the lord those things are all better now, another thankful thing! =)
My 30th birthday is coming up I already got my gifts from hubby (a dishwasher) and my mother in law (mug that reads "cat lover", baby book of 100,000 baby names, and a angel necklace with my birthstone) Which was very cool!
I am thankful and I know hubby is too, we talked about it the other day being thankful for one another and how amazing our life has been so far, and we can't wait for many more years to come on top of things, sure we have ups and downs but its usually over stupid little things, but we take the good with the bad and the bad with the good!
We where even talking about in our next life doing this all over again just making sure we live close by one another and not 1200 miles away from one another and in another country lol
I love my hubby with all my heart and so thankful & blessed to have him in my life, hes the most wonderful man ever and even when I say/do hurtful things I really don't mean it, I just hope he can continue to forgive me for my silliness and stubbornness, cause I sure know hes just the same, reason a lot of people and friends say
'My word you guys are so much a like it's crazy only thing that separates you two is your male/female difference'
Sorry but its true, but hey gets us knowing what one another is thinking so we don't have to say anything most times we just say, LETS GO! lol
I thank god everyday for giving me such a wonderful man and life and life with him I would be lost other wise. I believe he is my soul mate and one true love, and yes I believe in that kinda mushy stuff =P
It's been just over a year since we been in our new house, we are both loving it very much, things between hubby & I also been wonderful. One thing we are both thankful for well 2!
In January of this year we where told we can start a family I lost over 100lbs & been going good and so has hubby, no luck yet but we are hoping very soon ! =)
Other then that we been having a ton of fun spending time together going to comic book shops, working on things around the house, watching a lot of movies, now that he went from 10 to 12hr days hes home a lot more which means more time together & more time with our close friends! Which is other things we are thankful for!
Couple weeks ago I had 2 ER visits first was for mother nature coming late by a week then having some issues thankfully it wasn't a miscarriage but my doc said could be my body just skipped a cycle that month and forced itself to have one which caused a lot of pain, but they ran biopsy's to be sure and they came back OK, the second one was for a double ear infection that was causing so much pain it was making the side of my face go numb. But thank the lord those things are all better now, another thankful thing! =)
My 30th birthday is coming up I already got my gifts from hubby (a dishwasher) and my mother in law (mug that reads "cat lover", baby book of 100,000 baby names, and a angel necklace with my birthstone) Which was very cool!
I am thankful and I know hubby is too, we talked about it the other day being thankful for one another and how amazing our life has been so far, and we can't wait for many more years to come on top of things, sure we have ups and downs but its usually over stupid little things, but we take the good with the bad and the bad with the good!
We where even talking about in our next life doing this all over again just making sure we live close by one another and not 1200 miles away from one another and in another country lol
I love my hubby with all my heart and so thankful & blessed to have him in my life, hes the most wonderful man ever and even when I say/do hurtful things I really don't mean it, I just hope he can continue to forgive me for my silliness and stubbornness, cause I sure know hes just the same, reason a lot of people and friends say
'My word you guys are so much a like it's crazy only thing that separates you two is your male/female difference'
Sorry but its true, but hey gets us knowing what one another is thinking so we don't have to say anything most times we just say, LETS GO! lol
I thank god everyday for giving me such a wonderful man and life and life with him I would be lost other wise. I believe he is my soul mate and one true love, and yes I believe in that kinda mushy stuff =P
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
Monday, November 14, 2011
I Just Noticed....
Harold Camping Predicted the world was going to end May 21st 2011, then said he got the days mixed up and it was to be October 21, 2011, I just noticed we are sitting here November 14th 2011..........
I am really not shocked though hes been wrong many times before, only god knows!
All I have to say is I am thankful & Blessed for many things & people in my life and I thank the lord everyday shows that you shouldn't believe everything you hear =)
I am really not shocked though hes been wrong many times before, only god knows!
All I have to say is I am thankful & Blessed for many things & people in my life and I thank the lord everyday shows that you shouldn't believe everything you hear =)
Friday, November 11, 2011
Wednesday, November 09, 2011
Couple Married 72 Years Dies Holding Hands
Just shows true love is out there & real =)
Couple Married 72 Years Dies Holding Hands - Des Moines News Story - KCCI Des Moines
Couple Married 72 Years Dies Holding Hands - Des Moines News Story - KCCI Des Moines
Thursday, November 03, 2011
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Friday, October 07, 2011
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Sunday, September 11, 2011
We Never Forget - 9/11/2001
IN MEMORY OF ALL WE LOST, THE 10TH ANNIVERSARY OF 9/11- STATISTICS: Times of impact: 8:46 a.m. and 9:02 a.m. Time the burning towers stood: 56 minutes and 102 minutes. Time they took to fall: 12 seconds. 2819 dead from 115 different nations. 343 Fireman/paramedics, 23 NYPD, 37 Port Authority officers.
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/▌God Bless Our Troops ♥
Monday, August 29, 2011
Lightning Update
we lost a buncha stuff tv computers (both) etc etc as well as the ac, furnace and other stuff but its getting all fixed =)
Back online & most fixed though! =D
Tuesday, August 16, 2011
Lightning Strikes -> SUCK!
We had lighting hit the house/tree on Friday Aug 12th 2011, it totally sucked lost a lot of appliances and what not but thankfully we have insurance, all will be okay, just going to be offline til my PC is replaced, so no updates til I return!
Thursday, August 04, 2011
Friday, July 29, 2011
Something To Think About ....
Be very careful when you make a woman cry, because God counts her tears. The woman came from a man's rib. Not from his feet to be walked on. Not from his head, for him to be superior. But from his side, to be equal. Under the arm to be protected, and next to the heart to be loved. Ladies, pass the word, if you agree!!! And guys, if you believe this also , pass it along!!
Sunday, July 24, 2011
Thursday, July 21, 2011
Thursday, July 14, 2011
A Little Something I Wrote
You Can't Expect Me To Choose...
You can't expect me to choose, my best friend or my husband
You can't expect me to choose, my husband or my best friend
You can't expect me to choose, when my best friend is my husband
You can't expect me to choose, when my husband is my best friend
We been though to much together to toss it all away
My best friend is my husband and here I intend to stay
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Saturday, July 09, 2011
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Friday, June 24, 2011
Bye Bye StarWars Galaxy's !
http://massively.joystiq.com/2011/06/24/exclusive-smedley-on-the-sunsetting-of-star-wars-galaxies/
Friday, June 17, 2011
Trigun Movie, Summer 2011
http://trailers.apple.com/trailers/independent/trigunbadlandsrumble/
CHECK IT OUT!
Thursday, June 16, 2011
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Monday, May 16, 2011
Great snacks with less than 200 calories
30 healthy picks
A guide to slim snacking Beat office candy cravings 10-calorie snacks Eat and stay satisfied Upgrade your diet Eat to beat fat genes Healthy TV snacks Your snacks by the numbers Healthy vending machine snacks Avoid beverage diet sabotage Eat your breakfast and drop pounds How healthy are energy drinks? Chose diet-friendly snacks, How smart is your favorite snack?
Craving salty?
5 olives (any kind) (45 calories)
1 small Martin's pretzel (50 calories)
2 oz Applegate Honey and Maple Turkey Breast wrapped around 2 bread-and-butter pickles (80 calories)
1/4 cup hummus, 3 carrot sticks (80 calories)
1 Laughing Cow Light Swiss Original wedge, 3 pieces Kavli Crispy Thin (85 calories)
One 1-oz package tuna jerky (90 calories)
1 oz buffalo mozzarella, 1/2 cup cherry or grape tomatoes (94 calories)
1 bag Baked! Cheetos 100 Calorie Mini Bites (100 calories)
15 Eden's Nori Maki Crackers rice crackers (110 calories)
1 cup unshelled edamame (120 calories)
50 Eden's Vegetable Chips (130 calories)
One 1-oz package of Planters NUT-trition almonds (130 calories)
1/4 cup Trader Joe's Chili con Queso, 18 baked tortilla chips (140 calories)
1/2 cup pumpkin seeds in shell (143 calories)
2 pieces (30 grams) prosciutto, 4 dried figs (154 calories)
1 Subway Turkey Breast Wrap (190 calories)
Craving sweet?
1 package Original Apple Nature Valley Fruit Crisps (50 calories)
1 packet O'Coco's Mocha cookies (90 calories)
1 Jelly Belly 100-calorie pack (100 calories)
One 100-calorie pack Trader Joe's Chocolate Graham Toucan Cookies (100 calories)
One 100-calorie Balance Bar (100 calories)
1 Starbucks Mocha Frappuccino bar (120 calories)
1 package Back to Nature Honey Graham Sticks (120 calories)
1/2 banana rolled in 1 tbsp frozen semisweet chocolate chips (123 calories)
2 tbsp Better 'n Peanut Butter, 4 stalks celery (124 calories)
1 bag Orville Redenbacher's Smart Pop Butter Mini Bags topped with a spritz of butter spray and 1 tsp sugar (126 calories)
24 Annie's Chocolate Chip Bunny Graham cookies (140 calories)
Half of a 1.08-oz container of M&M's Minis mixed with 1/3 cup lowfat granola
(145 calories)
1 McDonald's Fruit 'n Yogurt Parfait (160 calories)
1 container Fage Greek Total 2% fat yogurt, 2 tsp honey (173 calories)
A guide to slim snacking Beat office candy cravings 10-calorie snacks Eat and stay satisfied Upgrade your diet Eat to beat fat genes Healthy TV snacks Your snacks by the numbers Healthy vending machine snacks Avoid beverage diet sabotage Eat your breakfast and drop pounds How healthy are energy drinks? Chose diet-friendly snacks, How smart is your favorite snack?
Craving salty?
5 olives (any kind) (45 calories)
1 small Martin's pretzel (50 calories)
2 oz Applegate Honey and Maple Turkey Breast wrapped around 2 bread-and-butter pickles (80 calories)
1/4 cup hummus, 3 carrot sticks (80 calories)
1 Laughing Cow Light Swiss Original wedge, 3 pieces Kavli Crispy Thin (85 calories)
One 1-oz package tuna jerky (90 calories)
1 oz buffalo mozzarella, 1/2 cup cherry or grape tomatoes (94 calories)
1 bag Baked! Cheetos 100 Calorie Mini Bites (100 calories)
15 Eden's Nori Maki Crackers rice crackers (110 calories)
1 cup unshelled edamame (120 calories)
50 Eden's Vegetable Chips (130 calories)
One 1-oz package of Planters NUT-trition almonds (130 calories)
1/4 cup Trader Joe's Chili con Queso, 18 baked tortilla chips (140 calories)
1/2 cup pumpkin seeds in shell (143 calories)
2 pieces (30 grams) prosciutto, 4 dried figs (154 calories)
1 Subway Turkey Breast Wrap (190 calories)
Craving sweet?
1 package Original Apple Nature Valley Fruit Crisps (50 calories)
1 packet O'Coco's Mocha cookies (90 calories)
1 Jelly Belly 100-calorie pack (100 calories)
One 100-calorie pack Trader Joe's Chocolate Graham Toucan Cookies (100 calories)
One 100-calorie Balance Bar (100 calories)
1 Starbucks Mocha Frappuccino bar (120 calories)
1 package Back to Nature Honey Graham Sticks (120 calories)
1/2 banana rolled in 1 tbsp frozen semisweet chocolate chips (123 calories)
2 tbsp Better 'n Peanut Butter, 4 stalks celery (124 calories)
1 bag Orville Redenbacher's Smart Pop Butter Mini Bags topped with a spritz of butter spray and 1 tsp sugar (126 calories)
24 Annie's Chocolate Chip Bunny Graham cookies (140 calories)
Half of a 1.08-oz container of M&M's Minis mixed with 1/3 cup lowfat granola
(145 calories)
1 McDonald's Fruit 'n Yogurt Parfait (160 calories)
1 container Fage Greek Total 2% fat yogurt, 2 tsp honey (173 calories)
Friday, May 13, 2011
NBC Dumps Wonder Woman?
Quote: EW says there’s no official reason why the show was passed over but that “scuttlebutt reveals the pilot earned mixed reviews at test screenings. And then there was all the online blow back – which seemed to de-emphasize the patriotism and play up the comic’s Greek mythology. Ultimately, the wardrobe department went back to the drawing board but that didn’t seem to save the project.”
All comic geeks could of told you that you guys where way off on the costume (boots are suppose to be red and where is the bikini bottom, if she didn't wanna wear it find a actress who would have), if your gonna make a show make it right, be honest I would of just liked to see the show to see how well you guys where gonna do, with the story line even tho the costume was way off and it sucked story line might of made up for it, would of been nice to see some newer shows on NBC instead of the same stuff over and over oh well there loss even tho its disappointing ..
http://blog.newsarama.com/2011/05/12/nbc-dumps-wonder-woman/
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
2012: Beginning of the End or Why the World Won't End?
Scenes from the film 2012. Courtesy Columbia Pictures. Scenes from the motion picture "2012." Courtesy Columbia Pictures. Remember the Y2K scare? It came and went without much of a whimper because of adequate planning and analysis of the situation. Impressive movie special effects aside, Dec. 21, 2012, won't be the end of the world as we know. It will, however, be another winter solstice.
Much like Y2K, 2012 has been analyzed and the science of the end of the Earth thoroughly studied. Contrary to some of the common beliefs out there, the science behind the end of the world quickly unravels when pinned down to the 2012 timeline. Below, NASA Scientists answer several questions that we're frequently asked regarding 2012.
Question (Q): Are there any threats to the Earth in 2012? Many Internet websites say the world will end in December 2012.
Answer (A): Nothing bad will happen to the Earth in 2012. Our planet has been getting along just fine for more than 4 billion years, and credible scientists worldwide know of no threat associated with 2012.
Q: What is the origin of the prediction that the world will end in 2012?
A: The story started with claims that Nibiru, a supposed planet discovered by the Sumerians, is headed toward Earth. This catastrophe was initially predicted for May 2003, but when nothing happened the doomsday date was moved forward to December 2012. Then these two fables were linked to the end of one of the cycles in the ancient Mayan calendar at the winter solstice in 2012 -- hence the predicted doomsday date of December 21, 2012.
Q: Does the Mayan calendar end in December 2012?
A: Just as the calendar you have on your kitchen wall does not cease to exist after December 31, the Mayan calendar does not cease to exist on December 21, 2012. This date is the end of the Mayan long-count period but then -- just as your calendar begins again on January 1 -- another long-count period begins for the Mayan calendar.
Q: Could phenomena occur where planets align in a way that impacts Earth?
A: There are no planetary alignments in the next few decades, Earth will not cross the galactic plane in 2012, and even if these alignments were to occur, their effects on the Earth would be negligible. Each December the Earth and sun align with the approximate center of the Milky Way Galaxy but that is an annual event of no consequence.
"There apparently is a great deal of interest in celestial bodies, and their locations and trajectories at the end of the calendar year 2012. Now, I for one love a good book or movie as much as the next guy. But the stuff flying around through cyberspace, TV and the movies is not based on science. There is even a fake NASA news release out there..."
- Don Yeomans, NASA senior research scientist
Q: Is there a planet or brown dwarf called Nibiru or Planet X or Eris that is approaching the Earth and threatening our planet with widespread destruction?
A: Nibiru and other stories about wayward planets are an Internet hoax. There is no factual basis for these claims. If Nibiru or Planet X were real and headed for an encounter with the Earth in 2012, astronomers would have been tracking it for at least the past decade, and it would be visible by now to the naked eye. Obviously, it does not exist. Eris is real, but it is a dwarf planet similar to Pluto that will remain in the outer solar system; the closest it can come to Earth is about 4 billion miles.
Q: What is the polar shift theory? Is it true that the earth’s crust does a 180-degree rotation around the core in a matter of days if not hours?
A: A reversal in the rotation of Earth is impossible. There are slow movements of the continents (for example Antarctica was near the equator hundreds of millions of years ago), but that is irrelevant to claims of reversal of the rotational poles. However, many of the disaster websites pull a bait-and-shift to fool people. They claim a relationship between the rotation and the magnetic polarity of Earth, which does change irregularly, with a magnetic reversal taking place every 400,000 years on average. As far as we know, such a magnetic reversal doesn’t cause any harm to life on Earth. A magnetic reversal is very unlikely to happen in the next few millennia, anyway.
The Blue Marble: Next GenerationEarth, as seen in the Blue Marble: Next Generation collection of images, showing the color of the planet's surface in high resolution. This image shows South America from September 2004.
Q: Is the Earth in danger of being hit by a meteor in 2012?
A: The Earth has always been subject to impacts by comets and asteroids, although big hits are very rare. The last big impact was 65 million years ago, and that led to the extinction of the dinosaurs. Today NASA astronomers are carrying out a survey called the Spaceguard Survey to find any large near-Earth asteroids long before they hit. We have already determined that there are no threatening asteroids as large as the one that killed the dinosaurs. All this work is done openly with the discoveries posted every day on the NASA NEO Program Office website, so you can see for yourself that nothing is predicted to hit in 2012.
Q: How do NASA scientists feel about claims of pending doomsday?
A: For any claims of disaster or dramatic changes in 2012, where is the science? Where is the evidence? There is none, and for all the fictional assertions, whether they are made in books, movies, documentaries or over the Internet, we cannot change that simple fact. There is no credible evidence for any of the assertions made in support of unusual events taking place in December 2012.
Q: Is there a danger from giant solar storms predicted for 2012?
A: Solar activity has a regular cycle, with peaks approximately every 11 years. Near these activity peaks, solar flares can cause some interruption of satellite communications, although engineers are learning how to build electronics that are protected against most solar storms. But there is no special risk associated with 2012. The next solar maximum will occur in the 2012-2014 time frame and is predicted to be an average solar cycle, no different than previous cycles throughout history.
http://www.nasa.gov/topics/earth/features/2012.html
Much like Y2K, 2012 has been analyzed and the science of the end of the Earth thoroughly studied. Contrary to some of the common beliefs out there, the science behind the end of the world quickly unravels when pinned down to the 2012 timeline. Below, NASA Scientists answer several questions that we're frequently asked regarding 2012.
Question (Q): Are there any threats to the Earth in 2012? Many Internet websites say the world will end in December 2012.
Answer (A): Nothing bad will happen to the Earth in 2012. Our planet has been getting along just fine for more than 4 billion years, and credible scientists worldwide know of no threat associated with 2012.
Q: What is the origin of the prediction that the world will end in 2012?
A: The story started with claims that Nibiru, a supposed planet discovered by the Sumerians, is headed toward Earth. This catastrophe was initially predicted for May 2003, but when nothing happened the doomsday date was moved forward to December 2012. Then these two fables were linked to the end of one of the cycles in the ancient Mayan calendar at the winter solstice in 2012 -- hence the predicted doomsday date of December 21, 2012.
Q: Does the Mayan calendar end in December 2012?
A: Just as the calendar you have on your kitchen wall does not cease to exist after December 31, the Mayan calendar does not cease to exist on December 21, 2012. This date is the end of the Mayan long-count period but then -- just as your calendar begins again on January 1 -- another long-count period begins for the Mayan calendar.
Q: Could phenomena occur where planets align in a way that impacts Earth?
A: There are no planetary alignments in the next few decades, Earth will not cross the galactic plane in 2012, and even if these alignments were to occur, their effects on the Earth would be negligible. Each December the Earth and sun align with the approximate center of the Milky Way Galaxy but that is an annual event of no consequence.
"There apparently is a great deal of interest in celestial bodies, and their locations and trajectories at the end of the calendar year 2012. Now, I for one love a good book or movie as much as the next guy. But the stuff flying around through cyberspace, TV and the movies is not based on science. There is even a fake NASA news release out there..."
- Don Yeomans, NASA senior research scientist
Q: Is there a planet or brown dwarf called Nibiru or Planet X or Eris that is approaching the Earth and threatening our planet with widespread destruction?
A: Nibiru and other stories about wayward planets are an Internet hoax. There is no factual basis for these claims. If Nibiru or Planet X were real and headed for an encounter with the Earth in 2012, astronomers would have been tracking it for at least the past decade, and it would be visible by now to the naked eye. Obviously, it does not exist. Eris is real, but it is a dwarf planet similar to Pluto that will remain in the outer solar system; the closest it can come to Earth is about 4 billion miles.
Q: What is the polar shift theory? Is it true that the earth’s crust does a 180-degree rotation around the core in a matter of days if not hours?
A: A reversal in the rotation of Earth is impossible. There are slow movements of the continents (for example Antarctica was near the equator hundreds of millions of years ago), but that is irrelevant to claims of reversal of the rotational poles. However, many of the disaster websites pull a bait-and-shift to fool people. They claim a relationship between the rotation and the magnetic polarity of Earth, which does change irregularly, with a magnetic reversal taking place every 400,000 years on average. As far as we know, such a magnetic reversal doesn’t cause any harm to life on Earth. A magnetic reversal is very unlikely to happen in the next few millennia, anyway.
The Blue Marble: Next GenerationEarth, as seen in the Blue Marble: Next Generation collection of images, showing the color of the planet's surface in high resolution. This image shows South America from September 2004.
Q: Is the Earth in danger of being hit by a meteor in 2012?
A: The Earth has always been subject to impacts by comets and asteroids, although big hits are very rare. The last big impact was 65 million years ago, and that led to the extinction of the dinosaurs. Today NASA astronomers are carrying out a survey called the Spaceguard Survey to find any large near-Earth asteroids long before they hit. We have already determined that there are no threatening asteroids as large as the one that killed the dinosaurs. All this work is done openly with the discoveries posted every day on the NASA NEO Program Office website, so you can see for yourself that nothing is predicted to hit in 2012.
Q: How do NASA scientists feel about claims of pending doomsday?
A: For any claims of disaster or dramatic changes in 2012, where is the science? Where is the evidence? There is none, and for all the fictional assertions, whether they are made in books, movies, documentaries or over the Internet, we cannot change that simple fact. There is no credible evidence for any of the assertions made in support of unusual events taking place in December 2012.
Q: Is there a danger from giant solar storms predicted for 2012?
A: Solar activity has a regular cycle, with peaks approximately every 11 years. Near these activity peaks, solar flares can cause some interruption of satellite communications, although engineers are learning how to build electronics that are protected against most solar storms. But there is no special risk associated with 2012. The next solar maximum will occur in the 2012-2014 time frame and is predicted to be an average solar cycle, no different than previous cycles throughout history.
http://www.nasa.gov/topics/earth/features/2012.html
Friday, April 29, 2011
Doctor Who & The Royal Wedding
It's the T.A.R.D.I.S .....
There is the 9th Doctor :)
There is the 10th Doctor talking with the Queen... Bad Wolf =P
Watch out behind you, where is Torchwood?
Friend of mine posted these on facebook, I had to share them
Thursday, April 28, 2011
HAPPY BIRTHDAY BATMAN! :)
This past Monday marked the 72nd anniversary of Batman's first appearance in Detective Comics, HAPPY BIRTHDAY BATMAN! :)
Saturday, April 23, 2011
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Tuesday, April 19, 2011
Elisabeth Sladen aka Sarah Jane Smith - RIP =(
British actress Elisabeth Sladen died this morning, according to a statement issued by the BBC. Sladen was best known for her role as Sarah Jane Smith in the long-running BBC sc-fi show Doctor Who.
The actress first played Sarah Jane in 1973 and returned to the part on numerous occasions, becoming a favorite of Doctor Who fans. Starting in 2007, Sladen starred in a spin-off show, The Sarah Jane Adventures.
In the BBC statement, current Do
ctor Who head writer and exec producer Steven Moffat pays tribute to the actress. “’Never meet your heroes’ wise people say,” Moffat is quoted as saying. “They weren’t thinking of Lis Sladen. Sarah Jane Smith was everybody’s hero when I was younger, and as brave and funny and brilliant as people only ever are in stories. But many years later, when I met the real Sarah-Jane — Lis Sladen herself — she was exactly as any child ever have wanted her to be. Kind and gentle and clever; and a ferociously talented actress, of course, but in that perfectly English unassuming way.”
Sladen, who was 63, had been suffering from cancer.
Monday, April 18, 2011
Kate No Longer Be Allowed To Do Once She Marries
Just one generation ago someone like Kate Middleton would have been tasered for getting too close to the British Royal family.
So when Clarence House relaxed their stun guns and let their future king propose to a 'commoner', Britain awoke in a postmodern-like daze where realities became relative and class boundaries blurred.
The only problem with such superb forward thinking is that the Royal Family is still very much backward and old fashioned when it comes to some matters, namely rules and etiquette.
And as the first normal woman to enter the Windsor fold, Kate will feel the changes to her life on a higher level than many past princesses.
Here are ten things the bride-to-be will no longer be allowed to do once she walks down the Green Mile – ahem, aisle – in Westminster:
1. Be referred to as 'Kate'
When Kate Middleton joins the House of Windsor this year, her official title will become ‘Her Royal Highness the Princess William of Wales’.
She can be addressed as 'Catherine' or 'Ma'am' (pronounced like 'ham'). But 'Kate' isn't going to cut it anymore by Royal standards.
Clarence House officials will probably wine and dine London's Royal correspondents and then ask them to please refer to Kate as 'Catherine' in the future. But we think they will refuse to do this. Something to do with search engine keywords.
2. Vote
Technically, the Queen and other members of her family are allowed to vote, but they do not do so because in practice it would be considered unconstitutional and not in accordance with the need for neutrality.
This is in keeping with the Royal Family's public role, which is based on identifying with every section of society, including minorities and special interest groups.
3. Run for political office
For the reasons stated above, this is also a no no.
4. Escape the scrutiny
As arguably Britain's most dysfunctional family, the Monarchy provides the British public with a generous source of voyeuristic entertainment, and an opportunity for heartless slander.
Having already been under the media spotlight for the best part of nine years, Kate has copped her fair share of criticism from the media over the most mundane and insignificant of things.
She's a commoner. She's an outrageous social climber. She's not outgoing enough. Her mum is an air hostess who uses the word 'toilet'.
The public watchdog will be onto Kate 24/7, so when she slips on that tiara come 29 April she will damn well have to make sure it’s a pretty one. But not too pretty. That would be exhibitionist.
This scrutiny will grow existentially and extend to all aspects of her life. Did you know the Middleton family can only trace their roots back to the mid 1500s? So what were they up to in 1413 then? They must be hiding something.
5. Play Monopoly
In 2008, Prince Andrew, Duke of York, said that the Royal Family was not allowed to play Monopoly at home "because it gets too vicious". No member of the family has yet revealed what they play in its place during the Christmas holidays.
6. Say or do anything controversial
This includes accepting large amounts of money from 'businessmen' for access to your husband and getting your toes sucked in public by your financial adviser. You know who you are, Fergs.
But it also encompasses Kate's expression of her preferred political position, social position, sexual position – basically anything within the realms of personality.
So far she has succeeded seamlessly in this, not putting a foot wrong in any situation. Granted though, the world has only heard her speak once after her and William's engagement and that was a heavily rehearsed affair.
7. Eat shellfish
British Royals are apparently never served shellfish, because of a fear of food poisoning. So if Kate can't live without crustaceans, she will have to seek them out in her own time.
8. Work
It is well known that Royals and careers don't mix well. As proven when Prince Charles' plan to work part time in a factory failed and Countess Sophie Wessex was forced to abandon her PR firm.
In Kate's case though, the whole unemployment scenario shouldn't be too difficult to handle. At 29 years of age she is the oldest spinster ever to marry a future king, and though she has a History of Art degree and years of life experience, Kate has spurned work wherever possible.
This is unless you count seven months as a casual accessories buyer for clothing chain Jigsaw and a short time working for the family company, Party Pieces.
Pinned by some as the unemployed woman marrying into a welfare family, we're reckoning the guys at Buckingham will keep her busy by sending her to lots of boat launches and pancake flipping gigs.
9. Sign anything unofficial
As a potential future counselor of state if William becomes king, Kate might at some stage have to sign government papers and brings legislation into force in her husband's place.
People in this position are strictly not supposed to sign anything that could lead to their signature being copied and forged.
Last year Prince Harry was in hot water when he flouted this rule by signing the plaster cast of a girl who had fractured her arm, a media report said.
The 17-year-old from Leicestershire was so excited she said her cast would be "going in a glass box", which the Queen might not have been too happy about.
10 Finish her dinner
If she is a slower eater than her grandmother-in-law, Kate could go hungry. In Britain, when the Queen stops eating, you stop as well, fork in hand.
Saturday, April 16, 2011
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Saturday, April 02, 2011
For My Cousin Elizabeth Rose ~ RIP
Words can't describe how I feel
It's been so long since we spoke
I do remember the times we used to spend together when I lived with you and the rest of our family...
We used to stay up late, do one anothers hair
Sure we where suppose to be in bed, As your mom asked
But we didn't listen, we stayed up and talked about guys
who was cute and who wasn't and who we wanted to date or take to the dance
You mom would yell "I hope your in bed", we would reply with "yes mom we are"
Little did she know we where still awake
Nothing stopped us from staying up so late
Though the next morning we couldn't get out of bed on time
We used to spend weekends sitting on the porch, going for walks & just hanging out
You taught me so much, so much I couldn't learn on my own
You where always like my big sister
Anything I needed to talk about you where always there for me
Even when we fought, about stupid little things from the music being so loud and I would yell "shutup" as you where singing... Not all the time but most times when you would wake me up
You have the voice of a angel, this I know is true
I can never forget my times with you
Now the time has come where god has you in his home
open his arms and is now taking care of you
sometimes I ask myself why why did god take you from us so young
I sometimes turn and ask god the same
But I know deep down your no longer in pain
Though I sit here and still can't believe your gone
Ive sat here for the last few days, wondering what to write what to say...
I just ramble on hoping things sound okay
My dearest cousin who I have always loved & looked up too
Your a amazing women and mother
Even though we lost touch over many many years
It seems like just yesterday we spoke like there was no time gap between
This is to my cousin Liz Who I will miss & always love
Til the day we will all meet up again
I ask you lord please Hold her in your arms protect and take care of her
Let her know shes going to be okay and there is no need to be scared
Lord I ask you to help my family though this time of need
I ask in your name
Amen...
I also found this reminded me of something Liz would do/say/write, i want to share it with my family & friends
Hey everybody,
I hope this doesn't reach you too late.
I don't want you to worry,
Because life up here is great.
I can't wait for you to see the beauty of heaven,
But I know it's not your time.
I really miss you guys,
But I know you'll be just fine.
You know I can see you right,
So please stop shedding tears.
You guys, I'm perfectly fine,
So conquer all your fears.
I'll be watching your every move.
Relax! I won't spill your beans.
But stop all those naughty things you do,
Because you know there's nothing He can't see.
I need you to come here to meet me,
But not if you misbehave,
So please keep God in your heart,
And you'll be safe and saved.
Hey guys I know you miss me.
It's really hard not to.
But please, please stop grieving,
Because you're making me sad too.
You guys have been a great family,
And I am truly blessed.
You've raised me through my earthly life,
Now God will do the rest.
He's really a great person,
And an even better friend,
So I'm in great hands,
And on Him you can also depend.
Oh boy, I'm getting carried away.
I want to say so many things,
But I really have to go now,
Because today I'm getting my wings.
Bye you guys, love you forever and a day!
P.S.: Be good. I'll be watching!!!
Thanks for putting up with me rambling along I hope what I wrote sounds okay
I love you Liz, I will never forget you <3
Love your cousin always
Tina
xo
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