Thursday, July 26, 2012

RIP Mary Tamm :'(

Sunday, July 22, 2012

Found This, Take Time Time To Read, Please!

”THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. it may save a life.) Reblog this!

It seems that alot of attackers use some tactic to get away with violence. Not many people know how to take care of themselves when faced with such a situation. Everyone should read this especially each n every girl in this world. THOUGHT THIS WAS GOOD INFO TO PASS ALONG…

FYI - Through a rapist’s eyes! A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.



1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh - HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.



I know you are smart enough to know these pointers but there will be some, where you will go “hmm I must remember that” After reading forward it to someone you care about, never hurts to be careful in this crazy world we live in.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage: a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) . b. If you! u are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars. c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.

If u have a heart or compassion reblog this post. ‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.

REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW ATLEAST PEOPLES WILL KNOW WATS GOIN IN THIS WORLD. So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information. I hope you all will Reblog. Lets See how many of you really care for this.


Saturday, July 21, 2012

Online Gaming & Movies Today!

Okay I need to make a post here about online gaming and movies, I am SICK & TIRED of seeing posts go around blaming our online games and our movies to shootings and other problems in the world today, Im not trying to start fights or arguments but everyone is allowed there opinion here, so let me say this!

I have been playing online games since I was 18 (I am now 30), I wasn't allowed to play very many games growing up 1hr a night after homework was done because school always came first, and maybe its cause online games didn't get popular til after I graduated I was raised pretty sheltered from the outside world maybe it was also cause I had parents that where pretty abusive and locked me in a room 99% of my childhood because they thought thats how they should raise kids, only amazing part of my childhood was when I lived with my grandparents & my foster family, sometimes I wish that part of my life lasted longer, but you know what everything happens for a reason and it made the strong person I am today!

But from personal experiences knowing the people I know now a days that are my age, 5-8yrs younger and even those ppl I know that are 5-20 years older then me that play online games have pretty great heads on there shoulders, I mean I met my hubby on a online game though a friend who I met on a online game 8yrs ago him and I met we lived in 2 diff places on this planet, here we are 8yrs later and been married 7.5yrs and Ive met more amazing people both on and offline, its just the way life is now, you will always have a great ppl you meet or the ones that don't need help, I know many people online too I see that I don't talk to that are 20 or younger that its there life its all they do because they need that guidance, I believe parents should structure them and give them that guidance.

Ever since everyone wanted this and that in life 2 people need to be working because everyone wants the best of everything reason taxes and all this other crap in life has gone up in prices to the point MOST families have to have 2 people working, which I think if we went back to the way it was ages ago when one parent was home while the other works there would be a lot of guidance and structure for our children today. I also find there isn't enough good teachers in this world that actually care about kids its all about bumping them along anymore, we need more good people in this world that will teach our children right from wrong and we need the parents to do the same.

This is one reason after everything I been though when I have kids they are going to know the right and wrong and good and bad and real from fake, I just can't understand why everyone blames games and movies for all our problems they do have ratings on them for a reason! If you allow your child to play and watch these things thats YOU but be sure you EXPLAIN to them this is fake this is real. If you want to keep your kids from it til there old enough to understand EVEN BETTER! ~ So think before you start pointing fingers and turn it and point to YOURSELF, when your kids are old enough to do things on there own your voice becomes a opinion not you do this my way, cause you had that chance to raise them right when they where young, now that they are adults think about the things you SHOULD have done!

Monday, July 09, 2012

Faith, Hope, Dreams & More!

I don't understand why some think I am getting my hopes up with the baby thing, its called have faith, hope for the best, dream big.

Just the way I was raised =)

My grandparents taught me a lot growing up even when I didn't listen some things set back in my mind really deep, I help friends with their kids when they ask I just don't go do it, tons of friends have been keeping hubby &  I in our thoughts &  prayers hoping and having faith we will become parents cause we deserve to be, we are wonderful with kids we are told & have it in us to be parents !

I don't need to say sorry that the small things in life make me happy, being able to stay home and take care of the house, do my paintings, garden work, spend time with family &  friends, online game, read comics, keeps me busy while hubby is at work, when hes home we do other stuff, I mean I am very thankful & blessed that I am able to do this & I thank god everyday & for the job he has provided hubby to make it happen if it wasn't for that I wouldn't of got on track with my losing weight and so much more, we are very thankful, Also I am not getting my hopes to high my mind is made if things don't happen there is a reason behind it. But til that happens we will try everything possible medical or not to make things happen =)

Til the day otherwise when doctors say, "We have done all we can"

Then we know &  there is other options out there like adoption, sure its expensive but is it for us, time will tell!

Til then I am going to continue to enjoy life, keep my faith, hope for the best and keep dreaming big, dreams can come true if you let them no matter what others say, what my grandparents (aka mom &  dad) shown me growing up just by how they lived =)

No matter what others think, believe think what you want, I really don't care, god has a plan and we are in it every single one of us !

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